define friendship please
while everyone is busy talking about political issues and the world wide problems, i am still in the house foolishly thinking about what friendship means. some people say friends are those who are always with u no matter how. my family always think i have many friends. oh yes, of course i do. but do i have real friends? true friends who will remain forever? during school days people will never forget to say sweet nothing such as: friends forever.
wow! nice words aren’t they? eventually i have matured enough and can see things more clearly now. i now stand that friends come and go. of course they do. people change and life will never be quite the same as before. everyone has followed different paths and it’s more difficult to have the paths cross again. since i am studying in japan, it is not easy to contact my friends often enough and in a year i only come back home once. sometime around august and september like now.
before i came home for holiday, i have received many messages and emails from friends to meet up, to reunite bla bla bla. of course i was looking forward for the moment. oo yeah…. really promising! now i only have like 10 more days and still so many friends i haven’t met. even the one i thought my best friend forever has been so quiet and nowhere to be reached. i really wonder why people even bother to show that they are so friendly to public when they actually know that they dont really have the time and initiative to meet up.
friendship is a 2 way thing isn’t it? and why do i have the feeling i was the only one adjusting and finding suitable dates to meet up? when they can’t show up, all they did was to text me and i heard nothing from them again ever since. can’t they then try to find other dates to make it happen? it is so ridiculous to show how much they care when they actually don’t.
oh well, it might happen again next year. but i know more than to be angry with them. after all, they dont play a big role in my life as far as im concerned. i still have the few which i can really rely on. at least during this 2 months holiday, i can recheck on who my true friends are. those who really mean their words. those whom i really appreciate. i am sure u all know who u are. 
well,one thing I’ve just recently(hmm,not recently actually,i’ve been having this thought for a long time,cume baru ni la kot macam obvious sgt,haha)realized is dat,as u get older,u’ll slowly “lose” ur friends..
“lose” in the sense of not having them rite beside u like they used.in other words,the gap between u and them widens.hmm,maybe this is because more and more people have become more independent,so they don’t really need many people’s help like before.
plus,as we grow older too,we will become more specific when it comes to achieving our goals in life.we will take life more seriously than before,including things in it like,for example,starting up a new family.so,people will try to be closer with the ones they want to share the rest of their lives with,and as a result,will inevitably ignore his/her friends in the process,except for those who’re really close to them.that’s just an example la.of cos therer’re other things as well like career or so.
lepak la,aku pun same gak,but now i’m used to it kot.altho there’s no doubt i myself feel lonelier as time goes by,but nonetheless,i try to remind myself that it’s just a part and parcel in life.just one thing,put ur family first above everything bcos they’re the “friends” u’ll never lose no matter what happens,esp parents.
p.s.hahaha,pjg giler komen aku..haha
amzar said this on September 26, 2008 at 11:42 am
hahah… no problem! thanks 4 the comment anyway! the longer the better!
i totally agree with u on family comes first. there is no doubt that family is the best thing anyone could have. i am already contented by only having them around and nothing else. my parents and siblings have never let me down. not even once.
and of course friends are just as important to complete our life. but if we lose them today, that is not really a big problem. we might even meet a better friend tomorrow morning. ;D
afiqahaisyah said this on October 6, 2008 at 3:37 am
well,fiqah…
i noe who is tat person u were talkin about..
but actually aku cam terpikir gak aritu..
yg aku xdpt nk g jumpe korang..
rase bersalah giler…
but then aku try to find some allocation time to meet u up..
thx God,aku dpt jumpe ko..
if not,mesti aku termasuk dlm golongan2 kawan2 yg ko ckp ni…
but whatever it is…
aku xpenah lupe ko..
btol…
its juz dat, aku bz kot lately..
aku mintak maaf kalo pape yg aku wat buat ko kecik ati..
myb indirectly..
aku syg ko…
pas g uma ko aritu aku rs cam makin close ngn ko..
n aku sdey nak balik..
tats it…
kalo ade byk mase lg,aku nk je stay uma ko lame2..
tp,,,
huhuhuhu
fiqah,to me,it is really hard to find a true friend in our life..
it is..
so just accept n adapt whoever di sekelilng ko..
we hav to..
or else,we r left behind..
mala kawanmu... said this on October 6, 2008 at 9:48 pm
huhu… thanks mala 4 ur comment… nway, u dont have to worry… ko x tergolong dalam golongan kat atas tuh… aku pun cayang gile kat ko! thanks so much coz datang umah aku aritu…. lame sangat tak borak panjang macam tuh kan… it is very difficult to find a true friend but i find that in u! ^_~
i hope i can always be there and be a true friend for u. and i also wish that we wont be like those people i mentioned above. muah2!!!
afiqahaisyah said this on October 9, 2008 at 5:00 am